When invited to daydream about the distant future, you can probably conjure up some powerfully appealing images. Perhaps you can see relaxing at your cabin or vacation home, opening that long-dreamed-about restaurant, traveling year-round to exotic lands, or starting a foundation.
The biggest challenge most of us encounter in contemplating “someday” lies not so much in envisioning attractive outcomes. Rather, it lies in drafting the road maps that will put us on a path to our desired destinations. Particularly when those travel plans project a time of arrival that’s, say, five, 10 or even 20 years down the road.
The person who plans for the future is a rarity in America today, says Florida-based goal-setting guru Gary Ryan Blair. “The 30-day mentality is where the vast majority of us live — where decisions are based on the quick fix.” Indeed, Blair estimates that fully 90 percent of us do not plan for the future. The few of us who do plan, he says, have an enormous edge over the rest of the pack for one simple reason: “Your life will not go according to plan if you do not have a plan.”
Planning can play an important role in helping you create a more fulfilling life, not just in the future, but now. When you set goals and achieve them, you feel a deep sense of satisfaction. “Having a long-term plan makes you the initiator, and it supports you in living your chosen life,” says Maurice Elvekrog, PhD, a licensed psychologist and chartered financial analyst in Bloomfield Hills, Mich. “True satisfaction in life comes from achieving those goals that you’ve set for yourself.”
Setting and achieving even small goals can help you feel empowered to achieve more: When you reach a goal, you are inspired to reach another — and another and another.
Developing a plan starts with a few simple steps: determining your goals, identifying action steps and pinpointing a deadline for achieving results. The process is not unlike planning a trip, according to Elizabeth Barbour, a life coach in Asheville, N.C. You need to decide where you’re going and when, and how long you plan to stay. You need to book a flight, buy a ticket and start packing your bags. When you develop a similar approach for your life, you’ll begin to see results.
Discover Your Goals
Many people have goals in place but no plan to achieve them. Others are so overscheduled in the present that they can’t easily discern what their future goals might look like. Indeed, many clients come to Barbour’s door because they have a sense that their lives are rudderless. She often asks clients who are uncertain of their long-term goals to create a collage of their “ideal life” out of magazine pictures. Working with images helps them think outside the box and zero in on specific goals.
Next, Barbour challenges clients to visualize how they would feel if they were to get what they want. This feeling step, she explains, helps transport people into that place of acting “as if” they are where they want to be. Feeling your goals enables you to “try on” your dreams before committing to them. You may dream of wealth, for instance, but discover that your desire for wealth is rooted in having the freedom to travel, be creative or spend time with loved ones.
To get at your goals, start by considering your values. Look at the experiences that have given you the most satisfaction and the people you have most admired. Develop a short list of 10 or so core values that you see as essential to you. As possible goals come to the fore, test them against the list. The more powerfully your goals resonate with your values, the more satisfying they’ll be to achieve.
Once you feel comfortable with where you want to be and what’s motivating you, the next step is developing a plan of “inspired action” designed to help you achieve those results.
If you are planning 20 years out, project yourself into that future, and looking backward from that place of success, ask: How did I achieve this? What strengths did I employ to get here? What empowering skills, beliefs and boundaries did I develop? What changes and choices did I make? What support did I seek?
Then, on paper, start breaking those answers down into logical steps you can begin assigning to a timeline. Include steps you can take now, in a few years and several years hence. For example, an inspired action step for several years down the road might involve getting an advanced degree, or taking a job within a company recognized in your chosen field. A supportive initiating action step for next year might involve a cross-country move to attend your chosen school. A step you can do right now might involve inviting two people to lunch for networking or starting to put a modest, monthly deposit into an investment fund to help pay for tuition, training or career transition.
In the sage words of President Calvin Coolidge: “We cannot do everything at once, but we can do something at once.” Get the better of procrastination by taking one small step today, even if it’s just making a single phone call. You’ll find that taking a long-term view and committing to a practical plan of action will lend more focus, more purpose and, yes, even more pleasure to your path.